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Your Intuition Is the Key to Making It Out of a Narcissistic Relationship
Yes, we all have it, but you’ve been trained not to use it.
You Were Born With Intuition
You were born with intuition, but somewhere along the way, you were trained to stop listening to it. Even as an infant, you could look at your mother or father’s face, and know whether they were a loving caregiver or a distant presence. As you grew, you cried in anger or frustration, and your caregivers told you to shush. Your teachers told you not to talk when you had something to say, because you would disrupt the lesson.
As a child, you could sense when your parents were arguing, and you needed to stay quiet. But, then they told you everything was fine. They were not arguing. You began questioning your feelings. You possibly even had a narcissistic parent, that told you your thoughts were not right. Or, a critical parent that told you to “act proper”, don’t be yourself.
After years of being told you were wrong, or you couldn’t speak when you wanted to, you decided someone else was “the expert” in every area of your life. I know I felt doctors were the expert, and knew more about my body than I did. I blindly followed what they told me to do for years, until some family members had scary incidents. My parents were experts about big life decisions, the guy at the store was an expert on what I should purchase, my boss was the expert about how I should teach my elementary class, and so on.
The narcissist loves that about you! You are easily trainable to go along with what they want. They just act confident, and use their manipulation tactics, and you’ll fall in line.
You Are the Expert About You
In reality, you are the expert about you. Yes, take advice from people with experience, but you are the ultimate decision maker about anything having to do with you, your body, where you live, where you work, what your preferences are, how spiritual you are, how much money you make and spend, how you raise your kids, how you conduct your relationships, and any other life decision.
You probably have several trusted friends, family members, or trusted professionals, that you can go to for advice when you need it, but you also have a few toxic people…
