The Narcissist’s Guide To Gaslighting

10 Subtle techniques for distorting reality. A tongue in cheek look at what a narcissist may be thinking.

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**To poke a little fun, this article is written in the voice of what I imagine a narcissistic person may think to themselves, or if they were to instruct someone else how to gaslight in a manual. It is not meant in any way to be harmful. If you feel you might be triggered, please do not read on. Narcissism is not funny in any way, but as you heal, it feels good to laugh and commiserate with others, about the common tactics all narcissistic people seem to use.

The Narcissist’s Guide To Gaslighting

Gaslighting is a subtle form of emotional abuse, used to get the target off center, and questioning their own reality. The ideal situation, if you are a narcissist, is for the target to be confused enough to believe the reality that they are being steered to believe. This “reality” is distorted and full of lies, of course, but they don’t have to know that.

Here are a few of the techniques that may be used:

1. Denying past events — You know you did something terrible, that will probably cause your target to get angry enough that they won’t cook your dinner, or give you sex later, so you make them believe that events did not happen the way they believe. It helps…