Get Unstuck From the Shock of Betrayal

Beware of the obstacle of staying stagnant in your trauma.

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When you are in a toxic relationship, you face many ups and downs along the way. Usually, a toxic relationship starts out with love bombing, where the toxic partner shows a lot of affection, attention, and idolization of the target partner. The target partner may notice the small betrayals, but may make excuses for the toxic partner, overlook the unwanted behavior, or deny it altogether, because it goes against the ideal partner she thought she met in the beginning.

Then one day, she comes face to face with a big betrayal that she cannot deny. There’s been an obvious infidelity, stealing money, a lie about substance abuse, or something else that she can’t ignore. At this point the target partner has a choice to make, either forgive her toxic partner, and move on, or make the scary decision of following her integrity and ending the relationship because this transgression goes against her core beliefs.

However, by this point, her toxic partner has been putting her in the position of forgiving or ignoring his smaller lies, his using money inappropriately, or communicating with other women inappropriately. He knows exactly what to say or do to reel her back in.