Create Your Safe Tiers of Relationships After Narcissistic Abuse
Not everyone can be in the top tier.
When you’ve been in a narcissistic relationship, you learn that not everyone is a safe person to share your deepest secrets with. Narcissists use your sensitive information as another means to control you.
When they learn something is embarrassing to you, or causes you to feel shameful, they will bring that information out at the most inopportune time, like when you are at a family celebration, and the information was something about a parent.
If by chance, the narcissistic person doesn’t bring up your sensitive information in public, they threaten to, or they use the knowledge to convince you to do things their way. “You don’t trust your parents, do you? After everything they’ve done to you? I’m the one that really cares about you. You should support me.”
You’ve been burned so many times, that you keep everything to yourself, carrying heavy emotions deep inside, feeling that there is no one to talk to.
Or, conversely, you learned at a young age that you are not allowed to have boundaries, so you share your trauma with everyone, including the cashier at the grocery store. Each person in your life is on an equal playing field, which isn’t exactly fair to the people who do have your best interests at…
