Can You Stay in a Narcissistic Relationship?

Lori Moulton đź’—
5 min read3 days ago

So many experts say to leave, but you can’t or don’t want to.

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Clients ask me the question, “Can I stay in my relationship, even if my partner is narcissistic?” They ask this question for many reasons, like maybe they are scared of a future on their own, they don’t have the money to leave, they share kids with the narcissist, or their religion or culture prevents them from leaving.

You may be wondering the same thing.

The answer is, yes, you can stay in a narcissistic relationship, but you have to make personal sacrifices, in your emotional, physical, and psychological well-being.

I wish I could tell you what you are really hoping for, that your partner could possibly change, and become the loving, caring, responsible partner you dream of. But, once you become educated on the traits and characteristics of narcissism, you will come to understand that narcissists don’t change.

Narcissists don’t want to change, because they think there is nothing wrong with them. Even if they did decide to change, their extreme sensitivity to anyone coming near their deep emotional wounds, would prevent them from truly opening up to a therapist.

A narcissist may say they want to attend therapy, and even go for a while, but it won’t last, because, according to…

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Lori Moulton đź’—

Certified Transformational Coach, Masters in School Counseling, Teacher, Author